Encourage independence in your children by allowing them to do for themselves. Look for learning opportunities in everyday tasks: children are far more capable than we realize at times. Yes, this requires some patience on our part, but teaching children how to accomplish a task, rather than just hurrying through it (something I am often guilty of myself) will pay off in a number of different ways.
Most importantly, children gain a sense of empowerment in knowing what they can achieve themselves; and self confidence leads to a happier, more independent young person. The best opportunities are those which your child shows interest in. The next time your child asks, “Can I try?” jump at this timely chance to foster his/her self development. My children love to help in the kitchen. Reading instructions or measuring/ mixing ingredients are some of their favorites!
Do you remember the last time you were being shown something new? Did your instructor hover over your shoulder, offering a continual stream of instruction? Were you allowed the time to come to your own conclusions, or were you rushed through the process? We need to learn at our own pace before we can really absorb new information.
Likewise, children must be allowed uninterrupted time to experiment, make mistakes and repeat tasks to thoroughly learn the “lesson.” Of course, it is important to keep kids safe during this process, but do so from a little distance. Give the child a chance to grow, without being under your shadow.
Part of giving children the time to absorb information involves turning off the tv/computer and other distractions. Flashy programs with exciting music and visuals will usually win the contest for your child’s attention.
Additionally, it is important to minimize the number of times we adults interrupt our children. Allowing time to focus helps to develop a longer attention span and teaches courtesy and respect. When you must stop a child mid-activity, leave the project out and untouched; then allow the child to return to it at the next possible occasion.
young age, let children know that everything has its place, and encourage them to return things properly before moving on to another activity. This will require that shelves and drawers be accessible and sized appropriately for little people.
Schedules can also be orderly. Children are more comfortable when they know what to expect. Obviously, life does not always fit neatly into an agenda, but having some daily routines can give children a sense harmony. For starters, try establishing consistent morning, evening and/or mealtime customs.